🔥 5 Minutes of Leadership Fuel
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🫶 A Dose of Inspiration
“We need to do work so great, you couldn’t possibly do it alone.”
— Keith Ferrazzi
Any work worth doing is too big for one person. That’s not a limitation. It’s an invitation to build something special together.
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🤓 A Dose of Learning
Most leaders say they want candor. They tell their teams: my door is open, bring me the real stuff. And they mean it.
But here’s what the research shows: teams don’t stay silent because they’re disengaged. They stay silent because they’ve learned that sharing struggles carries risk… real or perceived.
Ron Friedman, psychologist and author of Superteams, found that the best-performing teams share one defining habit: they’ve learned to normalize struggle, not just celebrate wins. In fact, on superteams, leaders regularly ask a deceptively simple question in meetings: “What are you stuck on?” That one question shifts the entire dynamic, from status update to collective problem-solving.
But knowing why it matters and knowing how to build it into your culture are two different things. That’s where Keith Ferrazzi’s Stress Test comes in.
Ferrazzi, a bestselling author and executive coach (I highly recommend Leading Without Authority), argues that most teams waste their meetings on report-outs. One person talks. Everyone listens. Nothing really changes. He proposes replacing the performative report-out entirely with a structure he calls the Stress Test:
Each person shares three things:
- Here’s what I achieved.
- Here’s where I’m struggling.
- Here’s where I’m going next.
The struggling part isn’t optional. As Ferrazzi puts it: if people only share wins, you get theatre. If they share struggles, you get improvement.
Then comes the real move: the team breaks into pairs. Why pairs? Because in smaller groups, people say what they won’t say in a big room. Each pair opens a shared document and writes three things for their teammate:
- Here’s what you might be missing.
- Here’s an idea for you.
- Here’s where I’d be willing to help.
What you’ve just done is nurture the culture you want with a practice. Simple, repeatable, and built on real commitment and contribution.
🌀 A Dose of Reflection
When was the last time you invited your team to share where they’re struggling… not as a confession, but as a collective starting point?
What would change in your next team meeting if you replaced the typical status update with the question: “What are you stuck on?”
What’s one small practice you could introduce this week that signals to your team: your struggles are welcome here?
You got this. Let’s lead with belief.
In your corner,
Melody
Founder, Culture of Belief
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