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🫶 A Dose of Inspiration
“Authentic leadership is the full expression of ‘me’ for the benefit of ‘we.’”
— Henna Inam
There’s a version of leadership that asks you to shrink… to sand off your edges, soften your strengths, and become something more palatable.
But the leaders who make the deepest impact aren’t the ones who diminish themselves. They’re the ones who bring all of themselves and direct their genius toward amplifying the people and purpose they serve.
Your authentic self isn’t an obstacle. It’s a gift.
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🤓 A Dose of Learning
Last week, I was talking with a principal about a pattern I’ve seen play out in leadership again and again, especially in leaders who are newer to the role.
They watch someone they admire. They study how that person runs a meeting, gives feedback, commands a room. And then, almost unconsciously, they start trying to become that person.
It makes sense. When we’re not sure who we are as leaders yet, we borrow from people who look like they’ve figured it out.
But here’s what I’ve come to believe, and what this week’s resource confirms, the most effective leaders aren’t the ones who best imitate someone else. They’re the ones who know themselves most deeply, stay curious about the wake they leave, and keep growing from that authentic foundation.
Dale Wilsher, leadership coach and founder of Your Authentic Personality, was recently on The Leadership Habit Podcast. Her conversation about authentic leadership was refreshingly clarifying.
It All Comes Down to Two Questions
Wilsher frames authentic leadership around two questions every person on your team is quietly asking:
Do you care about me? Can you deliver results?
Those two questions map to two essential leadership qualities: warmth and strength. And research is clear… the most influential leaders consistently demonstrate both.
Here’s the thing, though. Most of us naturally lean toward one. Some leaders are deeply relational – they build trust easily, create belonging, and make people feel seen. Others lead with command and confidence – they set direction, make decisions, and drive results. Neither is better. Each one falls short without the other. The bottom line? Both are necessary.
The opportunity is in knowing which way you lean… and what you do when you get feedback about it.
Stop Subtracting. Start Adding.
When a warmth-leaning leader is told they need to be more decisive, their instinct is often to dial back the warmth. When a strength-leaning leader is told they need to be more compassionate, they sometimes overcorrect and pull back from the very confidence that helps them deliver results.
Wilsher’s reframe is simple and powerful: Don’t subtract. Add.
Not only are your natural tendencies not the problem… they are your genius. The goal isn’t to become less of who you are. It’s to complement how you naturally show up, contribute, and lead.
Here’s what that looks like in practice:
If you lead with warmth, you might add:
- Stating your perspective clearly before wrapping up the discussion
- Owning your decision rather than using wishy-washy language
- Using data to anchor various options on the table
If you lead with strength, you might add:
- Asking for input before deciding
- Expressing genuine appreciation, specifically and often
- Slowing down enough to let people feel heard, not just informed
The goal is the same in both directions: help your team answer yes to both questions.
The Shadow Side of Strength
This idea connects to something I’ve been sitting with for a while… the understanding that our strengths carry a weakness when applied too heavily, at the wrong time, or with a skewed sense of direction.
I explored this in a post I wrote earlier this year that might be worth a read alongside this week’s episode: Every Strength Casts a Shadow.
Self-awareness isn’t a destination. It’s the ongoing practice of staying curious about how you’re landing… seeking feedback, noticing your impact, and being willing to grow while amplifying who you are.
That’s not a one-time exercise. It’s a leadership habit. And it’s one of the most generous things you can offer your team.
🎧 Listen to the full episode: The Leadership Habit: Stop Subtracting Yourself — Authentic Leadership with Dale Wilsher
🌀 A Dose of Reflection
This week’s learning is an invitation to get honest, not critical, with yourself. The most effective leaders aren’t the ones who’ve eliminated their weaknesses. They’re the ones who know themselves well enough to amplify their strengths in a way that keeps them growing.
For yourself: Where have you been subtracting instead of adding? Is there a natural strength you’ve been dialing back because of feedback, or because you assumed it was too much? What would it look like to trust that strength and simply complement it?
For your team: Can the people you lead answer yes to both questions… do you care about me? and can you deliver results? Which one are you consistently communicating well? Which one might need more intentional attention?
For your culture: What does your team do with feedback about how they show up? Is there enough safety for people to grow into their full selves, or does your culture quietly reward everyone looking and leading the same way?
You got this. Let’s lead with belief.
In your corner,
Melody
Founder, Culture of Belief
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