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🫶 A Dose of Inspiration
“Deep human connection is very different. It’s not a tool. It’s not a means to an end. It is the end — the purpose and the result of a meaningful life — and it will inspire the most amazing acts of love, generosity, and humanity.”
— Melinda Gates
It’s no secret that in our current world, when we are all so connected in one way, we’re deeply disconnected in the ways that really matter.
Living a meaningful life, leading meaningful work… it all comes down to connection. Being intentional about how we cultivate love, generosity, and humanity in ourselves and those in our sphere of influence is always worthy of our energy and attention.
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🤓 A Dose of Learning
There are books that inform you. And then there are books that change the way you see things.
The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters by Priya Parker is the second kind.
I first read it when I was a principal, and I haven’t led a meeting, planned an event, or sent an invitation the same way since. When I share it with others, I always say the same thing: this book will change the way you gather people, at work and in life.
This week, I was listening to Priya on the Mel Robbins podcast and was reminded all over again why her work matters so much. So I wanted to share it with you.
We Leave Too Much to Chance
Here’s the truth most of us don’t want to admit: we put enormous effort into the logistics of gathering like the venue, the food, the agenda, the calendar invite, and almost no effort into the thing that actually makes a gathering meaningful.
The people. The connection. The purpose.
Priya says it simply: the biggest mistake we make when we gather is skipping the purpose. We default to the same old formats, the same small talk, the same routines… and then we’re surprised when people leave feeling disconnected and uninspired.
Purpose Changes Everything
According to Priya, a meaningful gathering starts with one question: What is the need here?
Not the agenda. Not the logistics. The need.
And a strong purpose has three qualities:
- Specific. Meaning lives in specificity. The more particular your reason for gathering, the more powerful the experience. A vague purpose produces a vague gathering. A specific one creates something people remember.
- Unique. What makes this gathering different from every other one? What does this specific moment… this team, this season, this transition… actually need? The same people gathered for different reasons at different moments in life need something entirely different from each other.
- Disputable. A good purpose creates boundaries. Not every gathering is for everyone, and that’s okay. When you’re clear about what a gathering is for, you’re also clear about what it isn’t… and that clarity is what allows something meaningful to happen inside it.
It Starts Before Anyone Walks in the Room
Here’s what I’ve come to believe after years of applying Priya’s thinking: gathering with intention doesn’t start when people arrive. It starts with the invitation.
The invitation is the first act of gathering. It’s where you signal to people what kind of experience they’re walking into and what you’re asking them to bring with them.
On my last team, we invited a group of leaders from across the region to attend a conference together. Rather than letting everyone show up on their own and navigate the experience solo, we decided to connect everyone, to each other and to the experience, before anyone stepped on a plane.
We sent small boxes to each person. Inside: a curated invitation to come ready to learn, connect, and create something special together. A Spotify playlist we all contributed to and could listen to during travel. A list of who was attending. A few travel essentials – gum, chapstick, a snack mix, a luggage tag. And a short guide to interesting spots to explore in the city during downtime.
It was simple. It was inexpensive. And it said everything we wanted to say: We can’t wait to connect with YOU and create something special for our region… TOGETHER.
The gathering hadn’t started yet. But the connection already had.
That’s the art of gathering. And it’s available to all of us… in every meeting, every meal, every moment we choose to bring people together with purpose.
🎧 Listen to the episode here: The Mel Robbins Podcast: Try It for 1 Week: Small Ways to Make Your Life Fun and Exciting Again with Priya Parker
🌀 A Dose of Action
This week, choose one gathering and design it with intention.
It doesn’t have to be big. It doesn’t have to be elaborate. It just has to be purposeful.
For yourself:
Think about one personal gathering coming up this week… a dinner, a family get-together, a coffee with a friend. Before it happens, ask yourself: What is the need here? What do I want people to feel when they walk away? Let that answer shape how you show up.
For your team:
Before your next meeting, pause and ask: What is the actual purpose of this gathering? Not the agenda, the need. Is it to align? To reconnect? To solve something together? Get specific, and name it. Watch what shifts when people know why they’re in the room.
For your culture:
Think about how your organization currently gathers… team meetings, retreats, onboarding experiences, conferences. Where are you leaving connection to chance? Choose one recurring gathering and reimagine it. Start with the invitation. What could you do, simply and inexpensively, to signal to people that what’s about to happen matters and why their presence matters?
You got this. Let’s lead with belief.
In your corner,
Melody
Founder, Culture of Belief
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