🔥 5 Minutes of Leadership Fuel
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🫶 A Dose of Inspiration
“It’s as if we’ve divided the world into ‘those who offer help’ and ‘those who need help.’ The truth is that we are both.”
— Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection
We weren’t built to go through life alone. We’re meant to both extend support and lean on others… we need it in both directions. Plus, it just makes this adventure way more fun.
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🤓 A Dose of Learning
Angela Duckworth built a career on grit… the book, the research, the TED talk with tens of millions of views. If anyone has earned the right to preach solo willpower, it’s her. So it caught my attention when she recently wrote that the self-made achiever is the one archetype she can’t stand.
Her reason? In all her years studying high performers, she has yet to meet a single one who didn’t point to a wide community of people behind them. Not one. The lone hero hauling themselves up by their bootstraps… it’s a story our culture can easily promote, and it just isn’t true.
She points to a study that lands close to home. Researchers handed children a gadget they’d never seen. The kids left to crack it alone? None of them did. The kids who got to watch someone else first and pick up a hint or two? Most of them succeeded. But here’s the kicker… afterward, 70% of that second group insisted they’d have figured it out on their own anyway.
That’s the illusion of self-sufficiency in one sentence. We lean on others to learn… then quietly edit them out of the story, fooling ourselves into this idea that we should be able to go it alone.
And leaders are especially prone to it. We dress up “I don’t need help” as strength, when often it just means asking has never felt safe. As Duckworth puts it, “Do it yourself” is no way to live.
So here’s the reframe I keep coming back to. The bravest thing you can model isn’t having the answer. It’s raising your hand first. When a leader says “I’m stuck… who can help me think this through?” out loud, they hand the whole team permission to do the same. That’s not weakness leaking in. That’s a culture of belief being built, one honest ask for help at a time.
🌀 A Dose of Action and Reflection
This week, resist the urge to white-knuckle it by yourself. Try this instead:
🤔 Reflect: Where are you quietly grinding on something alone right now… that the right person could help you move on? Name it.
🎬 Act: Then do the hard, simple thing… ask them. Out loud, specifically, this week.
🤝 Lead: When did your team last hear you say “I’m stuck”? Or when have you heard them say “I could use some help here”? If it’s been a while, that silence is running on blast in the background. What’s one way you could make asking feel not just safe, but necessary, on your team this week?
You got this. Let’s lead with belief.
In your corner,
Melody
Founder, Culture of Belief
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